This is an interesting side of kink I haven’t really discussed on the blog, and yet I’ve gotten many inquiries about it. There is a large portion of the BDSM community who absolutely loathe so-called “Fin Dommes” (financial Dommes). There are also quite a few profiles that exist solely to exploit the kink scene for financial gain. These two facts make financial domination a very tricky subject to address – and I’d imagine even tricker to navigate for those who have a legitimate fetish for it. Believe me, they do exist!
There are several different fantasies that seem to be popular in the financial Domination scene. The most common fetish is probably blackmail. I get a LOT of requests for this particular kink. People interested in financial blackmail want to be forced to hand over their online banking details, and have a Domme threaten to expose and humiliate them either personally or professionally if they don’t hand over the information and money the Domme demands. A popular form of financial blackmail occurs from a distance – using tools like TeamViewer, a Domme can remotely access a sub’s computer and can gain access to sensitive information. This is dangerous unless you are very skilled with computers! I know that can be part of the thrill, but I always recommend caution when it comes to this fetish. If you partake in this, please take a lot of time to talk to the domme and develop trust so you can ensure she’s a true professional, and not one of those scammers looking to just take money for nothing.
A safer way to explore financial domination is in person, in the form of a session. Many of my subs request a session where I restrain them and “rape” their wallet – just a creative way to add some kink to the delivery of the tribute. This allows a lot more control over the situation. As you can imagine, this scenario lends itself nicely to roleplay – you can incorporate torture, blackmail, interrogation, pain, tease and denial… the list is endless.
If financial domination is your kink, I stress again, PLEASE do your research. Be cautious. Reach out to professionals and people in the lifestyle. Be courteous and respectful and do your homework. Ask for references. Give yourself a budget and stick to it. Request a phone call to confirm that you’re speaking to a woman, and make sure to ask her questions so you can assess her knowledge of financial and other forms of domination. Beware of scammers and people who push too hard. As with anything, keep it fun, creative, and safe.
I’m always interested in hearing from subs who have had experiences with the kinks I write about. If you’re in the mood, I have a pretty hot story on my site you can read by clicking here. If you have a fetish for financial domination, feel free to comment or send me an email!
Really good post. I “met” an online domme once. We skyped a couple of times so I know she was real, but in the end she was really just some chick who pretended to be a domme and just wanted me to keep email transferring her money. It didn’t feel sexy in the least. I would only do real life now with someone I know and trust.