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A Toronto Dominatrix needs to understand tones, themes and subtleties to excel at her job
Hello kinky people! I hope everyone who attended the Bottomless Golden event had a fantastic time! We had a truly memorable night and I look forward to many more collaborative events with gorgeous Dommes! If you haven’t already, be sure to sign up for my mailing list, so that you can keep up on all the latest Multi-Domme events and new releases from me! So – Tone. Tenor. Vibe. Mood. Feel. We can call it a lot of different things, but today I want to talk about the tone of a scene, identify some of the common ones in my practice, and discuss negotiating with your Dom/me. I’ll include specific examples so hopefully you can see what I mean, but as always if you have any questions, shoot me an email or leave a comment! To address tone, I think it’s wise to first address theme. I suggest you choose a theme if you have a particular fetish that you are primarily devoted to exploring, and if you would be disappointed if a mistress went off on a tangent with other kinks/subjects/fantasies. Themes can vary wildly, but for an example, choosing a medical theme will keep things med fet focused […]
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Toronto Dominatrix Mistress Mindy Bondage
Hello Lovelies, I receive emails all the time from people asking about bondage. Every level – from ‘I’ve never been bound at all’ to ‘I need to be restrained, and not just a pair of handcuffs behind my back’ to ‘I barely want to be able to breathe’. Granted, the last one ventures into the extreme with mummification (which I LOVE), but we’ll save that for another day. I should also be clear that while I am familiar with Shibari (the magnificent art of intricate Japanese rope play), this blog will not deal with that. Bondage requires a lot of trust, whether you’re experimenting with a partner, or even with your sexy Toronto Domme! You are giving complete control to another person, so make sure you’re comfortable with the person you choose to explore with. Bondage is perfect for restraining a sub for a number of purposes, but I’ll focus on two. Pain – perhaps you deserve to be punished because you’re not applying yourself properly, or you’re a masochist who loves the feeling of a well-placed paddle; of course, human nature is to attempt to avoid pain. The right use of ropes and cuffs helps you receive that beating […]
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Toronto Dominatrix Mistress Mindy's magnificent clevage
Hello lovelies. When I am out and about and people ask me what I do for a living, and I tell them I’m a dominatrix, almost every one of them is fascinated. They ask how long I’ve been doing it, how I got into it, is it safe, etc… But the one question that intrigued me enough to write about it on my blog is: Where do you get your clients from? More relevant to all of you – where and how do YOU find a dominatrix, and how do you ensure she’s the right domme for you? As great as it would be to say it’s a brick and mortar solution like Walmart, where you can go out, browse shelves and head to checkout – sadly it’s not that easy. Granted, you can look into the kink community and head for fet events and possibly meet a Dominatrix there, but it’s a bit of a crapshoot. For most of my clients and many out there, finding the right Domme follows today’s trend of instant gratification and online shopping. In order to preserve privacy and feel safe, most clients search from their phones, tablets and notebook/desktop computers. Assuming that the […]
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Hi guys!! First of all, I’d like to thank you for the enormously positive feedback on my last blog! From your comments I think it’s evident that my enjoyment of kink comes through pretty clearly in my writing, so I’m definitely going to endeavour to keep this blog updated at least once weekly, possibly more if I’m playing more! For this week’s blog, I wanted to make a bit of an announcement. Those of you who have visited me know that I have been using my basement as a makeshift play space for quite a while. There are some drawbacks to this – due to constant flooding and structural issues, I wasn’t able to make the aesthetic changes I would have like to make to improve the atmosphere and provide a true kinky ambience. Well, that’s no longer an issue! As of July 1st, I’m moving to a new space which I can customize to my perverted heart’s desire! With gleaming hardwood, a kitchen, and two separate, large playrooms, this space will allow for a lot more fun and flexibility. I’m setting up a “softcore” and “hardcore” space. One will be more muted, with cozy furniture, equipment for more regular […]
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Hello kinky friends! I’ve taken some time off and used it to stock up on kinky supplies and toys to tease and torment my lovely subs. I have a fun new assortment of gags, nipple clamps, anal plugs, beads, sounds, and more with which to threaten and torture you. I’ll be posting pictures and videos in the coming weeks so that you can fantasize about exactly what I’ll do to you when you visit my dungeon. I’m booking now for the New year, so reach out today and set up a time to live out your deepest desires. I can’t wait to meet you!
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Posted by: Mistress Mindy I thought I’d talk about an activity that I offer that seems a bit edgy to some in the scene. It’s called sounding (a form of CBT). Basically, it involves inserting rods of various sizes into the urethra. The sounds are typically made from surgical grade steel, but there are variations that vibrate or deliver electric shocks internally. Sounding is best left to those with experience as the urethra can become damaged if proper technique is not used. That being said, with the proper Domme, sounding can provide an intense sensation unlike anything else. If you’re looking for something that’s a little out there, I recommend trying it out! Under proper supervision (and obviously with the proper equipment and hygiene) you might discover a new obsession! This picture was taken during a sounding session with one of my more experienced clients. He’s had his urethra gradually stretched over the years, and can now take quite a large sound with no problem. In fact, we’ve ordered a set with larger sounds so we can continue to stretch him out! I incorporated a medical theme into this session, and told him that Dr. Mindy was going to continue […]
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Posted by: Mistress Mindy Good evening! I’d like to thank you all again for your lovely compliments on the blog! I’ve got a photo shoot scheduled soon, so keep an eye out for gallery updates! I thought I’d take some time to write about one of my favourite kinks – medical play. I have a unique advantage in this area, as I’ve had actual medical training. Those who have had the pleasure of visiting Dr. Mindy’s clinic can attest to my enthusiasm! I’ve got a few very eager co-Dommes who are in training as my nurses, which is very exciting. Of course, each appointment with Dr. Mindy is different, depending on the needs of the patient. Regardless, I like to start off with a basic clinical examination. I instruct the patient to remove their clothing. Then I record height and weight, and make a note of each in my chart. Next, I use my stethoscope to listen to the patient’s heart, and take their blood pressure. This is where I encounter some interesting results. It seems many of my patients experience mild tachycardia in my presence, though they report no noticeable symptoms. Perhaps I shouldn’t wear a corset in the […]
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Posted by: Mistress Mindy I had a rather unique session this past week which I’ve been dying to write about on the blog! I have a new client, “Vee”, who has such interesting ideas! It’s rare that a sub can surprise me with a new, fun, kinky concept I’ve never explored, but Vee seems to be very talented in this regard! Here are some of my session notes: Our session took the form of a sexual therapy appointment to address Vee’s failed relationships and ascertain why he is unable to please a woman and maintain a healthy relationship. Of course, to start things off, I had him give me his height, weight, and I asked if he had ever measured his penis. He said that he had, and that he was about six inches, erect. Sensing an issue with his measurement, I had him remove his clothes for me, and I took an accurate measurement – sure enough, his penis was just under 4 inches fully erect. He’d been measuring from the base of the testicles and falsely adding inches to his size. I informed him that he had a very juvenile penile presentation, with a small penis and very […]
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